Dating other people with herpes
Some couples have sex with condoms every time, others only wear protection during outbreaks or simply avoid contact with the areas where the virus is transmittable.
Sores can appear around the mouth, on the genitals, on the thighs, or buttocks, etc.
But know this: many, many couples find a way to make it work. In a long term relationship where there is open communication, maybe even a little professional counseling (people like Eric Garrison, or someone your doctor refers), you find your rhythm.
That virus can (but may not) be transmitted to any surface of someone else’s body, via physical contact.
If it does transmit, there’s an ~80% chance that they won’t recognize any symptoms from the infection.
You find the lifestyle and sex life that fits your comfort level.
In the same way that no birth control method reduces the chances of pregnancy to zero, couples eventually find the right balance between caution and calculated risk.So, yes, you can contract herpes from someone whether or not they are having an outbreak.