Dating an older guy with kids
Try Googling images of 50-year-olds and 70-year-olds and see how many more of these lines the latter group has.They will never trust him if he’s 10-plus years your senior, no matter what he does to gain their approval along the way.Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child. I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront.Some women with children do not want any more kids, and this is an awkward conversation to have after you have already exchanged “I love yous” or “I dos.” If you want one or two kids and she already has one or two kids, this is a conversation you should have sooner rather than later.See more of WIM on his weekly write-ups for SBM, on Twitter @Wisdom Is Misery, and Instagram: Wisdom Is Misery.That sounds dramatic; don’t forget how it actually looks…While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.
It will happen a whole lot earlier for him than it will for you, so you’ll get jealous of his increased free time while he’ll start demanding more of your attention to fill up his long, empty hours, even though you’re still an occupied professional.
This is not a video game that you can turn off when you decide you do not like how the game is playing out.
That is a personal decision you should figure out long before you involve a woman and her child in your life.
If you want to wait to have a kid until you’re in your early 30s, your older man is going to be about 50.
Having to run around after a 5-year-old is hard work, especially if it’s been that much longer since your man ran around as a 5-year-old. Older people warrant more of it, so while your man’s white hair will give him all kinds of credit with the people you two encounter, you’ll automatically be dismissed as slightly inferior, regardless of your personal attributes.But when deciding to date a woman with a child, you should be clear about your expectations for the relationship upfront with yourself and her.